We lived with my mother in law on and off for four years. While living there I started discovering narcissistic traits.She has been nothing less than mentally and emotionally abusive towards me my husband and my children. She is controlling and so manipulative.she has told my children that she is their mother she has told my children not to listen to us she has brought so much adult drama and tension around my children and so much toxicity. her husband is also on drugs. Although they claim to be the loving fit grandparents and rant and rave about their fake love for their grandchildren,and saying that four years together we were a “happy” family and spent a lot of quality time,When in fact,It’s almost like we lived two separate lives while living in the same house in order to lessen the damage that they have already done and are still capable of. We moved out over a month ago and have had no contact since and it has really benefited our lives and our children’s lives we do not ever want to be in the position again where we have to deal with this monstrosity it was not a way to live.We have tried to make this relationship what it should be but each time we are shown they are evil
If you and your husband are married and the children that you reference are products of your marriage together, you as the children's parents and guardians can bar grandparents from having a role in your children's lives. If the court entertained a grandparents rights petitioner further, it is also sounds like you have sufficient reasoning to explain, if necessary, your reasons for doing so. You made the right first step by no longer residing in their home. The next step would be to ask them to refrain from contacting you. If they continue, you and your spouse may need to obtain a restraining order to stop the harassment.
NH RSA 461-A:13, the "grandparents' rights" law, requires the "absence of a nuclear family" to apply. Without a divorce or death of a parent, the parents of a child have an absolute right to determine who is an appropriate person to have around their children.
That said, it is not uncommon for grandparents to still attempt to file for visitation or for guardianship. If either of these things happen, you should contact a local family lawyer to help you through the process.
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