First what is an RDP and then you might try the avvo button above find an attorney and look for one in Alameda, Oakland or San Francisco.
My offices does represent people from Avvo if they contact me but only in the Los Angeles, Orange, Ventura, San Bernardino and Riverside County in Southern California. The answers I give here are not meant to create an attorney client relationship. When accepting clients I conduct interviews face to face and they often take 30 minutes or more. I approach trials and issues from a legal and common sense approach, This is how the majority of judges I have appeared before in 40 years also make decisions. I do not intend by my advice to enter an attorney client relationship and in most cases advise to obtain legal representation. Sometimes if you can not afford it a consultation or limited scope representation is available. As an experienced attorney I can tell you, judges can be impatient, hate emotional arguments and over exagerations or lies. A brief outline of the problems and desired solutions is often best and I d0 limited scope representations advise clients on how to proceed at time of hearing or trial and my fees are considerably less when I do not appear in court as it takes much less of my time.
My office does handle RDPs and single gender divorces in Alameda and Contra Costa Counties. In reviewing your message, I have more questions than answers. Did you sign an interspousal deed for the house? What is the concern about the tax filing? The basic rules form RDPs and traditional marriages are fairly consistent.
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There's some type of find-attorney tool at Avvo, you can inquire of your County Bar Association, and you can research via the yellow pages or an internet search.
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