The father has not seen the children in over 6 years. 5 years ago he signed a stipulation granting me primary placement and denied any visitation arrangements for himself. Sometime over the last 5 years he moved out of the state, a 9 hour drive from me without notification to me or the court. A month ago his new wife contacted me demanding we set up a visitation schedule for him to see his children. He has had zero contact with them since 2012, not even a birthday card. I requested he complete a supervised reunification program where I live to slowly reestablish a relationship between him and the children. If he doesn't complete the program what are his chances of being granted visitation rights again?
First of all, do not communicate with his new wife. They are not her children; she has no rights.
It is impossible to predict what will happen. Wait for him to file a Motion. Then promptly see a local family attorney; you may want to find one before he files so you are ready. Then advocate for a slow introduction and see if he persists. Sometimes a parent like this will give up when met with resistance. Even if he obtains scheduled visits, they will likely be short and require him to provide the transportation. You should consider talking to a family therapist who can assist you with communicating about the reintroduction. Denying the kids any contact at all could backfire as they sometimes will glorify the absent parent and blame the parent they are with; let them draw their own conclusions about his character and allow your home to be a safe place for their feelings.
It is curious that the father didn't contact you but instead had his new wife contact you. Communication about your child should only be between the two parents. If he wants to see the child, he will be required to file a motion with the court to seek visitation rights. He will have a lot of explaining to do how all these years have gone by and he has had made no effort to visit or have anything to do with his child. Also, if he lives out of state, he will need a plan on how he gets the child back and forth from your home to where he is living and since he lives far away, if and when he is afforded any time with the child, it will be limited to non school periods.
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