Whether the parent wishes to change executor is his or her decision only. For ethical reasons, the attorney will want to deal with the parent alone. The attorney will also want to make sure there is no undue influence over the parent on your part. You need to seek local counsel about issues that are more about you than your parent.
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There are rules in Massachusetts dealing with who has priority to act as Executor. If an Executor has been appointed they can be removed and replaced, but typically only with good cause. You should consult with a lawyer well-versed in probate/estate administration law to find out your options or those of your remaining parent.
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Executors - now called personal representatives - are named by the testator in the will, and then approved by the court. A properly drafted will also provides for alternates, should the primary be unable or unwilling to serve. I would be surprised if the will allowed the primary PR to name an alternate.
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Your question is a little unclear: has the "executor" (now called "personal representative") already been appointed to administer the estate of the first parent, and are you trying to get appointed instead? Or is that person simply named in the will as "executor" and the person who made the will is still alive and now wishes to change who they name?
If the person whose estate it will be is still alive, they may change their will as they like to name whoever they would prefer to serve as personal representative.
If the person is deceased and someone has already been appointed as the personal representative of the estate, they may be removed, but only by petition. You would have to petition the court to remove them and show good reason why this should be done (mismanagement of estate property, for example).
If the person has died and named an "executor" in their will, but that person has not yet been appointed, you can petition to be named instead, showing good cause why the will should be ignored and you should be named instead.
Depending on your situation, you may very well need to do more than draft a new will. Consult an estate planning and/or probate attorney, depending on what is going on.
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