This response does not create an attorney/client privilege. To obtain a divorce in NC one of the two parties must be a resident for at least 6 months before filing the action. NC is a no fault divorce state, meaning that you do not need the consent of both parties. All that is required is separation for 1 year. As far as you signing papers, in NC there are no papers you would have to sign. The only thing signed would be an order and that would be signed by a judge. As for you not knowing about it, you would have to be served with the divorce complaint either by the sheriff's dept or via certified mail, return receipt requested. Seek a lawyer in your area. Good luck.