I would kindly but strongly recommend the father ASAP consults with a Family Law Attorney to file a Motion addressing ALL the open issues with the Judge, such as refusing parenting time and not informing the father about school details, etc. IMHO, an 8 or 9 year old should not be allowed to dictate when they see their father. However, the father also needs to ensure he is actually present and "active" with the kids during his parenting time. I wish you all the best of luck. Warmest regards, Matt Catchick.
The children can complain to mom that they don't want to visit dad all they want, but at the end of the day dad is entitled to parenting time per the court's order. If mom wishes to modify the current arrangement, she would have to file a motion to modify and show that it is in the best interests of the children that dad not receive parenting time under the current arrangement. Although the children's objections to the current arrangement will probably be considered in determining what is in their best interests, it is unlikely that those objections alone would be enough to convince a judge that parenting time with dad is not in their best interests. In the meantime, I agree with Mr. Catchick that dad should consider hiring an attorney and filing a motion to enforce the current order.
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