In most states, the child's choice can be considered at 14, but is NOT the only factor. For example, if Dad lives in a crack house and runs a biker gang, even if the child wants to stay with him, it wont happen.
My standard disclaimer: I am not offering legal advice, assume I do not know the law in your state and that I am just making suggestions for starting points for when you do speak with an attorney. Do NOT rely on anything I write and contact a lawyer in your area immediately after reading my posting.
Unfortunately, this is a common problem. The bottom line in Washington is that the parents have to stick to the parenting plan and the child DOES NOT have the right to choose after the plan is entered. You can try counseling for your child. On the other hand, you have to make sure the kids follow the Plan or you will be found in contempt unless you modify the plan.
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