As Mr. Hill stated there doesn't seem to be a question following all these facts. However, if you are being charged with DV, you should make no more public statements about the case and seek to retain counsel.
You are facing criminal charges as a result of your husband's statements and possibly your own statements to law enforcements. Cease talking about this matter to anyone except a criminal attorney. If you're currently in custody, don't talk about this incident as your jail calls are recorded and frequently become evidence against you. Your claim that your husband has "a problem with control issues" is an extreme understatement, he sounds like a lunatic to be avoided like the plague from hereon. Good luck
Often times the only information the police have to go by is the statements of the two spouses. You need to cease talking about the details of your case with anyone besides your attorney.