Hello thank you for taking the time to help me with this problem. My wife and I have been together for 22 years. 11 with a strong relation and 11 being married. OK i'm going to it short now just like every one else we have common problem and I didn't think much of it. Now with the time I had with my wife I have a pretty good idea how he ticks. In June 2017 I had the state trooper was knock on my door again had know idea what he was going to give. He ask if I was so in so and I said yes He handed me this big envelope and she served the papers. The question can my wife set up a drop off t my house and I had no clue. I don't even think I have a case but I didn't even have the time to fix it and I don't think that's fair It wasn't even going to counseling. If you have info that mite help me please feel free to email me back thanks
Your post is unclear. Were the papers that you were served divorce papers?
Yes, your wife can file for divorce and have you served without discussing her issues with you and without trying to go to counseling or do anything else to fix the relationship. This isn't the best way to deal with problems in a long term relationship, but people don't always handle their personal relationships in the best way.
Your wife does not need your agreement or consent to get divorced. Courts throughout the country, including in Illinois and Colorado, have done away with the requirement to prove specific grounds for divorce. Your wife merely needs to establish that the marriage is irretrievably broken and if she is willing to stand before a judge and ask for a divorce, the judge will find that this is the case. She doesn't have to show that her reasons are good ones or convince you that the end of the marriage is fair.
Filing for divorce is not necessarily the point of no return. You can still talk to your wife and suggest marriage counseling or other steps to try to repair the relationship. Many divorce cases are ultimately dismissed because the parties reconcile and change their minds. However, you need to understand that your wife may be at a point where she is no longer interested in repairing the relationship and is ready to move onto something else in her life. You have no ability to force her to stay - you can only try to convince her.
Even if you are able to take steps toward reconciliation, so long as the divorce case is on file you need to be prepared. You need to immediately sit down with an experienced divorce attorney to discuss what will happen and what you need to do to protect yourself if reconciliation doesn't work out.
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