"She (my stepmother) died 5 weeks later and I am listed along with her four children in her will."
Then you have standing to demand the probate of the estate and an accounting thereof. To do this, you would do well to have an attorney; the state and county bar associations for the location of your stepmother's estate can provide referrals.
Act soon, before the entire estate is dissipated.
The foregoing is for general information purposes and does not establish an attorney-client relationship.
Joint accounts go to the survivor and then his wife could do as she pleases-sorry.
The answer given does not imply that an attorney-client relationship has been established and your best course of action is to have legal representation in this matter.
If everything was in jointly titled accounts, and your stepmother survived your father, her estate should be disposed of according to her wishes. You indicated that you are "listed" in her will. You should immediately consult a local probate attorney for an in depth analysis of your situation.
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