This depends on several factors. Do you have joint legal custody during the divorce? If so, she must keep you informed of your child's help. This could also be an issue for discovery. I have an office in Turners Falls and Holyoke and offer free consultations if you would like to discuss this matter more.
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Call the hospital. Unless the court has ordered otherwise, and you would know if it has, you have joint legal custody of you son and you are entitled to all health and education information, even if your wife directs them otherwise. If you meet resistance then meet with a lawyer right away and ask him or her to call the hospital. This happens too frequently and the medical provider and/or school needs to be educated regarding your rights in the matter.
I am so sorry to hear this it sounds terrible. Your access to medical records depends on what the court has ordered, if anything, regarding custody. If you have joint legal custody you should have access to the medical records. You can go to court and look at your file and get a copy of any orders that state what your custody situation is. Then if the order is for joint legal custody, which it sounds like it should be, take it to the hospital and they then should give you the records you seek. It does sound as if you should have an attorney assist you. I wish you all the best.
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