VA disability is not community property. But you can get an apportionment which would be direct payments from the veterans administration for child support if she is not paying
Mr.Busby's answer is spot on. They are not community property. However, as custodial parent you may have rights if she is not paying her child support. Speak to a local divorce lawyer.
This post is for information purposes only and does not constitute legal advice, nor does it establish an attorney client relationship with Mr. Cassara.
I agree with the advice of my colleagues. Your best bet is to contact a local family law/divorce attorney. Good luck.
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