Am I entitled to know who my ex fiance's roommates are, and an address, if she wants overnight visits with our toddlers?
2 attorney answers
Yes you definitely need to make sure you are legally established as the kids' father (if you signed a VAP for each at the time of birth, or by filing a parentage case in court), and then pursue appropriate relief in court with regard to parenting issues including decision-making and parenting time schedule. You should move forward on this quickly.
No legal agreements or orders? Then get them. With what you describe, you will need a lawyer. Make that a priority. You don't say if you are legally established as father--a big vulnerability if you're bot. Depending on details, there may be an Order of Protection filing lurking.
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