I suggest you consult with a local lawyer as soon as possible. You are asking appropriate and detailed questions. But, to get appropriate answers you will need the help of a local lawyer that knows the ropes in your state.
It sounds like you are dealing with a variety of issues - traps for the unwary.
Please seriously consider retaining a local lawyer to help you. Good luck.
You should consult with or hire a New Jersey lawyer that handles these types of cases. You are obviously asking some insightful and important questions; but the fact that you don't know the answers, or apparently where to find them without help, foretells that you will be in trouble trying to handle this type of complex case by yourself. Get help.
If you are asking these questions, you obviously do not know NJ procedure. I am not licensed in NJ, so I don't either. Retain a local attorney immediately. If your case gets dismissed with prejudice you are out of luck. Do the right thing, and hire counsel.
Let me guess. You already consulted with a NJ attorney who said he or she can't help you and you are trying to do it yourself. Even experienced attorneys like me, who have been doing this 40 years, do not know all I should about these cases. There is no way you can do it alone. Sorry to be so blunt.
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