Her emotions and desires do matter, especially under those circumstances. You should consult, or better, retain, an experienced Family Law Attorney to advise and represent you in an RFO to modify Child Custody and Visitation, to request that the Court allow your daughter to testify at the hearing(s) on that RFO, and to request a Psychological Custody Evaluation.
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I agree with counsel. Your daughter is old enough where the court and the mediator will listen to what she has to say in making a determination. Rather than risk violating the court order, you should file a Request for Order that changes custody. Lastly, there might be more to your daughter's story as well that you are unaware of; so best to look into this situation more.
Best of luck,
-Sanjay Paul, Esq.
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At age 14 or older, the court considers the child's preferences but the child does not decide what the court order will be. If the child refuses to go to a court ordered visitation , you may be held to account or blamed. But many police depts do not force a child to go if the child acts the way you describe. But you need to go to court to resolve it promptly.
You need to listen to the reasons your child is acting this way. Children express things differently. You cant insist that she explain this like an adult or a lawyer. Often indirect questions and active listening is employed in a non threatening, non challenging manner.
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