I’m 16 he’s 20 I’ve heard multiple times and read online that if I’m 16 it doesn’t matter but only if he is less than 4 years or something and he’s exactly 4 years and 26 days older I just wanna know if he can suffer consequences even if our parents are okay with it
I think you may be getting a couple different scenarios mixed up. The age of consent for sexual contact in Michigan is 16. That means that at 16 you can legally consent to 16 provided that no threat or coercion is used and you have the requisite mental capacity to consent. The other person could still be charged with a crime if he is in a position of authority over you like a teacher, coach, counselor, etc.
The four year age difference is in what we call Romeo and Juliet situations. If you are under the age of consnet (either 13, 14, 05 15 years of age) then the other person would not have to register as a sex offender if it was consensual. However, it is still a crime to have sex with someone under the age of consent, but if it's less than a four year age difference, he would't have to register as a sex offender but he still could be convicted of a CSC offense. I believe that's what you're referring to.
Even if you are the age of 16 which is the age of consent for sex in Michigan, there are still a couple of caveats to be concerned about... The age of consent for "sexting" (i.e. nude pictures) is 18. That means that even though you can consent to sex, if you were to "sext" the 20-year-old you could be charged with manufacturing child pornography and distributing it and if he was to receive and keep it, he could be charged with possession of child pornography. That is a lesson that many find out the hard way when it's too late. That is something to keep in mind. Also, your parents could get a personal protection order against him or could even pursue criminal charges for contributing to the delinquency of a minor.
So, just because you're 16 doesn't mean you're completely in the free and clear. Be cautious. Just because something is legal, doesn't necessarily mean it's something you should do or that it's not something that can have other bad or secondary consequences.
The main issue that would arise is if he was in a position of power/authority over you. And, of course, your parents can legally restrict who you see, when, etc. With that said, these types of age disparities can oftentimes lead to bad consequences. You may want to consider dating someone your own age.
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