I dont want anything from him, owe him nothing, and have had no contact with him for the last six years. Tried social media to ask him to just sign for divorce if I paid all the fees. I got no response. No mutual kids or property or bills. How do ...
If you know is driver's license number or the license plate number of a car he owns, it won't be hard to locate him through DMV records. Most attorneys have a DMV account and are allowed to look up records. Another cheap way to find someone is hire an investigator. It costs between $50 and $200 to do a data search on a computer and private investigators pay to have access to more extensive data bases then we mere mortals can access. You will probably get a ton of information. Remember that a person can be served at their work address, or anywhere for that matter, so it isn't absolutely necessar to have their home address if you can catch them at some other place - their gym, their job, their favorite bar, their friends house on poker night, etc. If he has a facebook page and announces he is going to somewhere, that might work.
But absent finding a good solid lead, you can petition the court for an order of alternative service. You will need an attorney to help you with this, but basically your propose a series of ways you can notify him that a divorce has been filed that involves him. Judge's have allowed people to be served via notification on Facebook, although this is probably not the best way and wouldn't be my first choice. Before you can do alternative service you will need to attempt to find him as I stated in my first paragraph above.See question
We are still legally married and have never had a legall seperation. She was on TANF for 7 years or so. The kids live with her. She never worked. I paid over $20,000 in TANF plus gave her money that was never reported. She is off of TANF now and i...
Child support can be ordered when parents live separately. It is mandatory when one parent applies for state assistance that as a condition of getting that assistance they assign their right to get child support to the State. So my guess is that when she went on TANF the State set up a child support order the continues even after someone is no longer getting TANF. The only difference is that the money will go directly to her instead of to reimburse TANF. On your end it is still collected by the State.
You can go down to your local courthouse and have them check OJIN under your name. They will probably find in what court there is an ongoing support order. You should get a copy of that information and make an appointment with an attorney to discuss your options in terms of whether the support can be modified downward. It may be that the support is the right amount. You can also discuss whether you want to file formal divorce proceedings and get a forma custody parenting time order. Or you can leave things as they are. But understand, you risk having to share your assets that you have now and acquire in the future with your wife when you finally divorce, and visa versa. Getting divorce will stop the marital rights in each other's assets from accruing.See question
I want to know my rights as a parent, when it comes to physically disciplining my children.
Don't use a belt. Your hand on the bottom of a child that is too young to otherwise understand punishments like being put on restriction or losing their allowance may be necessary to instill what behaviors are not allowed and is justified if the behavior you need to stop would otherwise possibly lead the child into a situation of serious injury. For example, running into the street. Don't do this in a manner that would leave a bruise or a red mark.
Default to other means of psychological discipline when ever possible. Time outs, loss of privileges, rewards for good behavior. Reserve corporal punishment for children that are too young to comprehend verbal commands or behavioral modification techniques. Talk to a child specialist to learn alternatives.
That said, there may come a time when you have a teenage son that takes a swing at you testing his manhood. I would hope that would never happen. You will want to know basic wrestling techniques to avoid being hit and maybe wrestle your son to the ground and not inflict any punches that could get you thrown into jail. You may have to walk away and not react physically. In other words, you can defend yourself but only the minimum necessary to protect yourself from harm. You can't react with force to show your child show is stronger. You will always be at risk of prosecution for child abuse or assault if a mark or bruise appears on your child as a result. Make sure you know how to control your own anger and walk away before things escalate.See question
Hi, all. First of all, I'm not sick or expecting to die anytime soon, but I want to be prepared (well, as much as I can be). I'm a 33 year old female, single, no children. I have two parents who are alive and a younger brother. They live on the Ea...
The best way to make sure your wishes are followed is to discuss the your wishes with your family and hope the follow them. Another way to insure your wishes are followed is to prepay for as much as possible. You can prepay for cremation services and make sure your family is aware of this plan. Another thing you could do is buy a small life insurance policy and make it payable to the person you trust to carry out your plans. The policy can provide the funds to pay for the cremation and memorial party. Many clubs, jobs, banks, etc offer basic life insurance policies to members/employees at little or no cost.
Also, as was mentioned by Ms. Hollis, you need to keep in mind that you can have a situation where you become incapacitated but you are still alive. TO be honest, that should concern you more then how people proceed after your death. Basic estate planning documents such as a simple will, a durable power of attorney, and an advanced directive would be the minimum you should invest in now. You can always revise and improve these documents as your financial and personal situation changes going forward.
While you are obviously passionate about how you want your passing to be observed, I would suggest you step outside your first person view point and view it from the view point of your friends and family. Funerals and memorials are about the living more than they are about the dead. They are how the living cope with the passing of someone they love. So think about how important it is for a specific plan you have to be followed after you die versus how important it is for you to know that your closets friends and family will do the rituals and ceremonies that they need to perform to heal their pain and sorrow. Certainly make your wishes known, but if it isn't an overwhelming concern for you, you might just want to leave your immediate family members the ability to decide what they ultimately do to observe your passing.See question
I am in current legal dispute criminal and child custody
Sorry but you don't state enough for us to know what this is in reference to. Can't respond.See question
I am in a child custody case in klamath county buy feel I should change counties to stand a chance
Probably not going to happen if the case is in the proper venue now. Once a court has jurisdiction they usually hang on to the case. About the only reason to move the case is if the child has moved to another county. You don't get to move a case around just to shop for a different judge. If you want to figure out whether the case is currently in the proper venue, make an appointment to talk to an attorney.See question
My mother and sister are both ex addicts. My mother has been spreading rumors about me that I am using meth. I don't know why. My sister always threatens to beat me up because we simply just do not see eye to eye and our personalities do not mix w...
This is easy to fix. You and your husband should make an appointment with an estate planning lawyer. As part of your estate plan you should get a durable power of attorney and in the body of the durable power of attorney there should be a statement as to your preference who should be appointed as a guardian or conservator for you children should you and your husband die or become incapacitated.
The Oregon courts will honor your nominations for guardian and/or conservator that you put in writing. Typically this can be included in a durable power of attorney, but it can be done by another written document as well.
You will also want to discuss whether setting up some type of trust would also be advisable. If your financial plans include having life insurance, you may also want to set up a trust that the insurance is paid into and you get to designate who will be in charge of these funds. You may or may not want to have the same person that is raising your children handling their money. A trust will give you options and keep the money out of the hands of your mother and sister.See question
I have been employed by Kmart for 13+ and the other day a customer went (called angel which go every year to pay off layaway for customer to help with Christmas) and between 5 different layaways member decided to pay off mine Long story short I wa...
You listed this as a divorce question and that is obviously a mistake. I will set it as an employment law question. You may need to repost to get more responses.See question
My x-spouse and I signed an agreement modifying the amount of spousal support I pay to him in Germany, while he was in the US, and had it notarized. I was later advised this was not a legal document. I obtained a stipulation to modify the spousal...
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Generally speaking you can create a stipulated Judgment that will modify spousal support and you can send it to your Ex where ever he might be and if he agrees to stipulate, he can have it signed and notarized and return it to you for filing. An attorney should be able to help you create this document at a relatively low cost. If your Ex won't agree to a stipulation, then you may need to file for a modification. You can have your Ex served the papers for the modification in the country where he currently resides. The US court would still have jurisdiction to modify an order it previously made.
For some reason you put child support as the category but your concern only mentions spousal support so I will change the category to alimony.See question
All of the incidents were "Not-at-Fault" - rear-ended, hit and run, daughter who is no longer on the policy and even then, was still no fault of hers. Can they do this? Should I seek legal counsel? Can I fight this? I pay my premium on time EV...
Unfortunately I have been hearing stories of people being dropped for simply making claims even though the accidents weren't their fault. This seems to be a new trend with some companies. Some companies offer policies that guarantee you won't be canceled or give you some type of assurance. You should probably shop around for a new policy with a new company where this won't happen. I don't know if there is any thing that the Oregon Insurance Commissioner can do to help, but it's worth calling them to report this and ask them if there are some new policies being planned to deal with this.
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