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Judy A. Goldstein

Judy Goldstein’s Answers

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  • Am I able to change my son's last name without his biological fathers permission?

    My son is three and the father has never seen him. We have gone to court for child support but I only receive payment once in a great while. Last payment received was February of 2016 for $36.00. We do not share custody nor have we gone to court f...

    Judy’s Answer

    You and you husband can file a petition for adoption even if the bio-dad does not relinquish his parental rights. a termination hearing will be conducted in the adoption case and if the dad's rights are terminated due to neglect, abuse or lack of interest, the adoption will proceed A name change, just like an adoption, is a legal proceeding which requires notice to the biological father. Since you and your husband are actually interested in adoption, why bother with the name change? Go for the adoption and your child's surname can be changed if the adoption is approved. Adoption is not a DIY project. Please speak with one or more lawyers and hire the one you like the best.

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  • My brothers soon to be ex wife took the kids 14 days ago. What do we do?

    My brothers soon to be ex wife took his small children 14 days ago. Although he has spoken to the girls, mom will not disclose location. Police will do nothing. Mom and Dad are separated and have separate residences. He was able to track her cell ...

    Judy’s Answer

    Your brother needs a lawyer. You are not a party to his divorce. You can help him by assisting in hiring a lawyer if he need financial help.

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  • Can a sex offender be around people with disabilities?

    This boy I know is a sex offender and he's having a party with people with other disabilities. Is this allowed? He's also on trial for raping another one and he's in sex therapy. He invited me to the party... Should I call the cops?

    Judy’s Answer

    Was this boy determined to be a sex offender in a court of law? If so, he has restrictions which he must follow. His probation officer will know what his restrictions are and he should discuss them with his PO. He invited you to the party. Do not go. You have no other responsbility in this scenario. If you call the police, what would you report - that someone is having a party?

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  • Im 28 and i want my dad to adopt me.

    I want the man who raised me to legally adopt me. He's not my father but has been wonderful to dad to me for the last 27 years to him i am one of his kids and more so. How do we go about doing this

    Judy’s Answer

    If you lived with this man for the requisite period of time, you and the man who raised you can file a petition for adoption. The process is much like an adoption of a minor but there is no need to notify the biological parents. Speak to a lawyer who handles adoptions. Your case should not be difficult or take a long time. Best wihses to both of you.

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  • Will my son be arrested?

    My child has taken $500 from me under the directions of his biological mother. He is 12 and was told he had to get money to go on vacation with them. I would like to file a police report and have her held accountable as he gave her the money-but...

    Judy’s Answer

    More than likely the police will say this is a civil matter and will decline to investigate fully. If you owe child and are not wage deducted, the $500 could be considered contribution to child support. In the alternative, the next time your son's mother seeks contribution to expenses, you can argue that you have already furnished $500 toward those expenses.

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  • My attorney has charged me, $102,000. to divorce my husband of 35 years, does this seem high and how do I negotiate a reduction?

    I hired a top law firm to handle a high conflict divorce. My ex is a corporate CPA and began drinking and not coming home. Over spending on our 3 - 20 year olds and has put us in debt. When I hired the attorney I let him know this and he assure...

    Judy’s Answer

    There is no way to respond to your inquiry. We have not spent the time that your attorney did working on your behalf and we are not in a position to comment on another attorney's fees. If the attorney is willing to reduce the balance by $25,000, that is a very good start. Continue to communicate with your attorney and review your billing very carefully. If you feel an item is unreasonable or high, discuss this with your attorney.

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  • If someone knows where my stolen vehicle is but they refuse to tell me or the police can they be held reliable in any way?

    I have a truck that is missing. I know several people who know where its at but they wont tell me. Now I have filed a stolen vehicle report and want to know if even though certain people did not physically steal the vehicle but know where it is lo...

    Judy’s Answer

    It is up to the police to investigate. Furnish all the information you have. This is not a lemon law question.

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  • Can a 17 year old woman engage in sex with a 21 year old man?

    The age of consent is 17 in my state so i was wondering if we are able to legally have sex, and if my parents must approve of anything?

    Judy’s Answer

    It is unclear what your state is, but the age of consent in Illinois is 17, so there is no crime if the sex is consensual.

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  • How much could it cost to hire a lawyer for a no children divorce in IL, and what would be the best option for me currently?

    My wife still lives in TN. I moved back to IL from TN we were married in IL. We accumulated a lot of debt while we were together on my credit. Since her credit wasn't in good standing we used my credit. I would like spousal support to help pay the...

    Judy’s Answer

    This is not a help wanted board. You can locate many attorneys available to assist yo by clicking m the Find a Lawyer link at the top of this page. Additionally, the attorneys and law firms set their own fees. No one here can answer for anyone else. Unless your notarized separation agreement is entered as an order of court, it is wholly unenforceable. Speak to several lawyers. Hire the one you like the best. You will not get maintenance or anything else unless and until there is a pending divorce, whether in TN or in IL.

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