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Chris Alexander Stachtiaris

Chris Stachtiaris’s Answers

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  • Can the mother of my daughter refuse contact and visitation of my daughter for non payment of child support who lives in Arizona

    child support balance is 11000

    Chris’s Answer

    There are more details needed to fully answer your question, but under PA law and practices, no, court ordered custody time cannot be withheld for a failure to pay child support by the other parent.

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  • Free advice can't be more valuable than redundant? Injustice is unbearable...isn't there someone out there who actually cares?

    I asked how I could have a chance to tell the family law judge my version of my case? The response, in essence, was to talk to my attorney; 1) I do not have an attorney; 2) when I talked to the prior attorney (and other prior ones) I...

    Chris’s Answer

    it sounds like a lot has transpired in your case, and it is not clear from your questions what issues have been decided. If you have had hearings you are stuck with the decisions from those hearings if the time for appeal has passed. Therefore, at this point, for those matters, there is no point in telling any more of you side of the story to the judge as it won't matter on issues decided. On any matter that there can be modification on, such as support, custody, and perhaps alimony, the only facts that matter are those adopted by the court in prior rulings and anything new that is relevant. For example, if assets have been divided and it's too late to appeal, then it's done. If a custody schedule has been decided, then unless there has been a change in circumstances that would give a good reason to change the schedule, then it is going to stay that way until something changes. You can go back and say this or that, which was going on prior to the current order, should be considered, it won't.

    You have to get past what has happened, make the most of now, and seek change in the future if there is good reason for it. Best of luck.

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  • How can I get a chance to tell the Judge my version of the facts?

    I was told early in my case that I needed an attorney and the judge highly recommended that get one, so I did... the defendant in my case did not... it seemed all along I was never able to tell the facts from my side of the case, yet the unrepres...

    Chris’s Answer

    You said you hav an attorney. I would expect that he or she did what was needed to get the relevant information before the judge. I think you need to have a discussion with your attorney about your concerns.

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  • How long after my Attorney filed for spousal support will a hearing be Schduled in Allegheny County,PA! It had been 10 days ?

    Filed Almost 2 weeks ago!

    Chris’s Answer

    When you file for support in Allegheny county by appearing at the domestic relations department you are given an order with a date for the conference. The conference date is generally 6-8 weeks from the date of filing. You should have received a copy of this order from your attorney.

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  • My ex just cashed a check that was supposed to be thrown away, dated a year ago. Can I use this toward child support?

    The check even has "For **** and babies" written on it. Months after the check was written, we decided to get official child support through the court system and nullify the check. Rather than starting a legal battle, I'd much rather apply this...

    Chris’s Answer

    Since you are paying support through the support system the only way to get credit without court action is for her to agree to sign a credit form that you would then submit to the court. You can not get credit without her agreeing that it should be for child support or by having a judge order that it should be.

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  • Are my wife and I free to move once my step children (her son and daughter) turn 18 even if they are living with us still?

    Both my wife and I were offered excellent positions that would have taken us out of state, but her ex-husband is fighting us on relocating. I read that since the relocation may impact his relationship with the children, it could be denied. If they...

    Chris’s Answer

    You and your wife are never obligated to stay, the relocation denial would only apply to the children in question. You are free to move. If you want to take the children, and the father will not agree to modify the custody schedule to allow for the children to move with you, then you have to ask the court to decide it is acceptable to relocate .
    Alternatively, you are free to move, give father primary custody, and either work out an agreement with him on a schedule for when the children will be with your wife and you, or ask the court to make one. Then, as my colleague points out, once each child emancipates - reaches the age of 18 and has graduated from high school - that child is no longer under the jurisdiction of the court and is free to live where he or she chooses.

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  • My child lives with grandmother. I pay support . How can I get a court to make my child's mother pay child support too.

    My ex (who I never married) does not pay child support. I pay support. (to my ex who gives to the gma. My child has lived with maternal grandmother most of her life. She's 14 now. Mother does not live there. How can I get court to make her pay h...

    Chris’s Answer

    There is a practical issue to you question. Even if the court ordered the mother to pay support to the grandmother, nothing stops the grandmother from giving the money back.

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  • What's going to happen

    I went and sued my son's dad for child support and now he wants some type of custody so he won't have to pay child support. My son stays with me I take care of him. I pay for everything he needs. His dad never helps with our son financially. How w...

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    In PA an obligor (person required to pay child support) pays the same amount of child support whether that parent has 1 overnight or 145 overnights per year. If that parent has between 146 and 182 overnights then there is a gradual reduction in the support paid. You should seek the advise of an attorney to determine the expected outcome of your support hearing and how to deal with fathers renewed desire to have and care for his kids - responsibility comes with custody.

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  • If I told a man he was the father of my child and it turns out he is not can he take me to civil court? He did not raise child.

    He did not raise the child and did not pay any child support. I got pregnant while separated from husband but had slept with my husband at one point. My husband and I got back together and decided to raise the baby together. My husband is on the b...

    Chris’s Answer

    There is additional information that would be helpful to know so you should consult with an attorney directly. One thing to know is who does your daughter think is her father. This area of the law is intricate and again you should meet with an attorney.

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  • Can they use her statement against me in getting my kids and can they bring up charges on me for saying hot and sexy 2 yrs ago?

    Hello i am in the process of trying to get my 2 youngest daughters one is 8 and one is 9. They were taken off my ex wife and her bf. because my daughter the 9 year old said my ex wife's bf sexually touched her! So my ex wife and her bf had to g...

    Chris’s Answer

    You should consult with an attorney to clarify some points - do not do so here. It is unclear from your question whether or not you actually posted the comment, which is significant. If you did not write the comment, and that can be verified, then there is t anything to use. If you wrote the comment there are details that need to understood to properly advise you.

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