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  • If a party in a divorce in CT has hired a private investigator can the party that is being investigated ask for records?

    Divorce is final but was contested and discovery was part of the case.

    Kate’s Answer

    If the party hired the investigator then the records should be discoverable. If the party's lawyer hired the investigator, then the report is considered as attorney work product and can't be discovered until the lawyer decides to use it a evidence. This is an important distinction and one of which a self-represented party cannot take advantage.

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  • I have been married for 14 months. I have two kids from my previous marriage.

    The house I am currently living in under my name is worth $300,000. I have already half of it paid off before I got married to my second husband. He was giving me $4,000 monthly for various expenses. He installed new windows in my house for around...

    Kate’s Answer

    It is not possible to predict what might happen in court but with more facts, an attorney would be able to advise you about your options and possible outcomes. You would be wise to consult an experienced lawyer near where you live in person.

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  • Im getting divorced and my husband and I own our house outright - no mortgage. He is buying me out. How soon can I get my $$?

    I have already moved out.

    Kate’s Answer

    You can get your buy out whenever he has the funds and agrees to pay you. Most often, it would be shortly after the judgment of divorce enters unless he needs time to complete a refinance of a mortgage to get the funds to pay you. But if you both agree there is a pressing reason for the money to change hands earlier, there is no reason it can't happen. The concern would be that you could change your mind before the divorce is final which could create complications.

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  • I have no access to income, tax, mortgage documents, etc. They're all hidden on husband's. computer. What should I do?

    My husband wants to divorce & I'm a stay at home mom. I'm reading up on what I should do to prepare & safeguard myself. It's recommend to make copies of these papers. I have no access, & he would know if I even turned on his computer let alone op...

    Kate’s Answer

    Don't be discouraged by not having access to your financial information. Once you start a divorce process whether it is mediation, collaborative divorce or traditional court process, there will be a procedure for getting information and documents from your husband. In most cases, there are ways of confirming the accuracy of the information by getting paychecks, statements, tax returns and the like. You should start by consulting with a lawyer to discuss your situation and get some advice about how information may be obtained.

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  • What can I do about ex who refuses to meet me at our court-ordered time to drop-off our son?

    We have an court order to meet at 6:30pm Friday to exchange our son (11 yo). My ex refused to meet me at our agreed location and said "I guess you'll see him next week then" and hung up. I haven't seen him in 2 weeks because my ex won't meet me. I...

    Kate’s Answer

    Your best remedy is a Motion for Contempt. If the court order is clearly put and your ex willfullly fails to follow it, the court can make whatever orders it feels are appropriate including awarding attorneys fees and costs to you for having had to go to court. It is always hard for courts to make people behave but this is the only remedy we have in court.
    If this persists, you may consider asking for a Guardian ad Litem and a modification of custody. But this really depends on the facts.

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  • Can 13 and 15 year old boys refuse to see their father even though he has shared custody?

    I have two sons that are 13 and 15 years old. They no longer want to follow the court order that is split 50/50 custody with my ex. She is allowing them to no follow the court order. There is a big difference between the two households. I am st...

    Kate’s Answer

    Like most family situations, the answer depends on the facts. One parent should not unilaterally change the schedule. If you want the schedule followed, you may need to file a motion for contempt. If your ex wants the schedule changed, she should file a motion to modify. If there is a Guardian ad Litem in the case, he or she should talk with the children to find out what their reasons are. If they have good reasons which would usually something like experiencing abuse or neglect in a parents' home or lack of attachment to that parent, that might support of change in the schedule. A better choice might be to seek parenting counseling or family counseling to try to address the cause of the problem, The courts recognize that it is difficult to force children of those ages to spend time with a parent against their will. And their will is not usually controlled by their parents when they are teens even though it is tempting to blame the other parent. Forcing children to spend time with you does not usually enhance that relationship. Kids of that age are more interested in their own social lives than their parents. The parent who accomodates their seeing their friends, participating in activities etc will be the one they gravitate toward. So the court may not get you a satisfactory remedy even if it orders the mother to make the children spend time with you. Usually in this kind of situation it is best to take a serious look at what is going on between you and the kids and try to deal with that. If that doesn't work, the motion for contempt is the other option. Again, it really depends on the specific situation.

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