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Miriam Gruen Kosowsky

Miriam Kosowsky’s Answers

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  • Should a father pay child support when he does not know where his children are at because the mother took them without permissio

    Miriam’s Answer

    I am so sorry to hear about your husband's situation. I agree with the other responses that whether or not his ex-wife can take the children depends on what is written in the divorce document.

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  • Divorce and taking my kids on vacation

    Miriam’s Answer

    I would definitely keep the text that your ex wrote allowing you to go. I would text or call your her to find out what her concern is. If your ex is upset about missing parenting time, then you can agree to swap some of your parenting time in order to make it up to her. If she has other concerns such as being away from them, then you can suggest that your children can call, FaceTime or Skype her each night so that she will stay in contact with them. What you want to do is let your ex know that you care about her concerns and are trying to work with her. Typically if you show concern for her, she might back down. Similarly I would explain to her that you have already paid for the trip, the children are excited and that unfortunately it is too late to cancel. I would also document your suggestions in a text or email so that you have evidence that you are trying to be reasonable.

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  • Divorce lawyer.

    Miriam’s Answer

    Since you have two children, I would suggest that you and your wife try to mediate your divorce. Mediated divorces are usually better for children and your relationship than litigated divorces. It is best to learn to work together because you and your wife will have to parent your children for years to come. As you begin your divorce process, this is a good time to learn how to work collaboratively, despite having different views. If you go to a reputable divorce mediator, then you can decide together what is in the best interest of your children. Mediation puts the decision making in your hands, not in the hands of a judge who is not as familiar with your children and your total situation. The question would be what steps would be needed to make your wife comfortable with the idea of joint custody and then to delve into the pluses and minuses of that arrangement. As far as the house is concerned, your wife might realize that it is too expensive for her and may be willing to be bought out of her interest in the house. Your best chance to get what you want is to work with your wife instead of against her.

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  • Divorce

    Miriam’s Answer

    Attorneys Mason, Shutzbank and Samuels have given you excellent advice. As a mediator and attorney, I would just add that you can write back to your husband and let him know that you have received the advice of attorneys who have said that you can receive a divorce with or without him. As a result, he has a choice to make, he can work with you to create an agreement that each of you feels is fair, or you can file and he may lose the opportunity to have a say in what is decided.

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