It was a long term girlfriend, but it would seem to make sense that the lawyer at least meet with him privately at some point so as not to invite the claim of undue influence. When ever we ask any questions, they get defensive. At the beginning, we were told that we couldn't contest the will. Last time we asked if we could have a meeting with lawyer, girlfriend and us, we got yelled at. The lawyer said that we were just angry because we are not getting what we want out of the will. Who knows what was said previous to my dad's passing. Maybe the girlfriend convinced them that we were evil monsters, and that we were going to make trouble. Now when we ask anything, they think they have to yell at us. It's weird.