Do NOT Write a Letter to the Judge or DA
Many couples believe that if the alleged victim writes a letter to the judge or the DA stating the whole case was a misunderstanding, or that the case was the victim's fault, or describing the amount of time they've been together, will somehow lead to a better result, maybe even a dismissal. These letters are not only useless, but can actually lead to a worse situation. First, letters to the judge have no impact because the judge usually does not have the power to dismiss the charge. Second, letters to the DA are largely ignored because most victims of domestic violence change their statements and/or forgive their abusers, so if a letter is written reflecting that attitude, it will only confirm in the DA's mind that there really was domestic violence. Let your attorney handle the negotiations and if your attorney wants a statement from the victim, let the attorney control how the statement is presented.
Do NOT Talk About the Case if in Custody
Conversations to/from jail are often recorded, and the content of those calls can and will be used against the Defendant. Any statements regarding the incident, including apologies, accusations, arguments, and acknowledgments can lead to disastrous consequences later down the line. This rule applies to conversations with family members & friends, as well as the victim. Above all, do NOT threaten or intimidate the victim into changing their testimony or not testifying at all. And don't tell the victim not to seek medical treatment for any injuries they acquired. This will lead to new felony charges of witness intimidation. If you have any concerns about the case, the only person you can and should speak with is your attorney. Let your attorney handle any issues with the victim's testimony.