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The Top 10 Things to do to Prepare For Your Divorce

Posted by attorney Kevin Johnson

The last article I wrote was about things you should not do during your divorce. Here are 10 helpful things your Metro-Detroit Divorce Lawyer advises you need to do while planning your divorce. Here are 10 things you need to do while planning your divorce:

Consult an Attorney

This is the first thing you need to do. Most attorneys give a free consultation, so take them up on it. Ask them the questions you need to know in order to understand the process and what you have to do. Look for a qualified family law attorney that handles these matters frequently. Also, never shop on price. You do get what you pay for.

Take an Inventory of Household Goods

Property division is an important component of your divorce and you need to know exactly what is in the house and what is considered an asset from the marriage. Develop a 3 column list. The first column will be what was yours before the marriage (you get this stuff). The second column should be what was acquired during the marriage. The third column is stuff you want from the second column. Further, separate the third column into items you absolutely want, items you’re willing to negotiate on, and items you don’t care if you get or not. This will help your attorney negotiate your settlement.

Look at Your Credit History

You will need to know how good (or bad) your credit is. You will need to look for a place to live, or possibly get a new car. Looking at your credit history will tell you how likely it is you can get a mortgage or a loan. Go to for a free credit report from each of the three credit reporting agencies.

Apply for a Credit Card

In order to establish your credit, you will need to apply for a credit card. Don’t get a card that has a high credit limit, but get something you can manage each month and pay off each month. Put a tank of gas on the card, groceries on the card, or your cell phone bill on it. Then pay the balance off at the end of each month. You will start establishing your own credit history.

Look for A New Place to Live

Assuming you will not stay in the marital home, you will need to look for places to live in order to gauge what you can afford. Do not leave the marital home before filing for divorce, but look and see what is out there that you can afford.

Learn the Household Budget

If you do not know what the household budget is, learn it. You will need to know what living expenses you need and what they will cost. It will help you develop a budget.

Continue Filing Your Taxes

Uncle Sam does not care if you are getting a divorce. You still must pay him. So continue filing your taxes. Discuss with a tax professional if you should still file jointly or if you should file married, filing separately.

Talk To Your Kids

Let your kids know what is going on. Explain to them that mom and dad still love them and that the divorce has nothing to do with them. Don’t hide the divorce from them. Tell them parenting timewill both of you will see the kids as much as possible

Keep Your Lawyer Informed of any Changes

Make sure your lawyer knows what is going on. If you move, or your spouse moves, we need to know that.

Stay Positive

This you must do. The divorce process can be long and grueling, but keep your focus and maintain a positive attitude. It will be over and you will soon be on your way to a better and happier life. If you maintain a negative attitude, it will make the process much harder on you. Child custody, child support, and spousal support will be handled so you can focus on your future.

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