You Dream of a Life Without Your Spouse
It is not uncommon for us all to wonder "what if" during our day-to-day lives, but when you start thinking about how your life would be better without your spouse, you've definitely got a sign that your marriage is in trouble.
You Keep Things to Yourself
I'm surprised at how often clients come in and tell me that they simply quit communicating their needs and concerns to their spouse. When your marriage has reached a point to where it's not worth it to "bother" your spouse with your concerns and needs, this is another sign the marriage is in trouble. Open communication is a key to any successful relationship, and holding things back from your spouse is quite unhealthy to the marriage.
You're the Only One Working on the Marriage
If you feel that your spouse is not putting the same amount of effort into the marriage, then feelings of resentment and anger can really kick in. Anger sometimes fuels people to make rash decisions; however, feeling a lack of reciprocal effort is a definite sign the marriage is on rocky grounds.
Your Marriage Lacks Intimacy
Sex is an important part of any healthy marriage. If one spouse seems uninterested in sexual intimacy with the other, this is a sign the marriage is in trouble. Even more so, if one spouse is withholding sex as a form of "revenge," then this too indicates a storm is brewing.
The Bad Outweighs the Good
This one ties in closely with all the other signs. If you feel there is more trouble in paradise, then there are some issues that need to be confronted.