Historically, the mother gained custody of the children in Long Island divorces. Even though courts are coming around and giving the father more consideration than before – their rights can still be overlooked in matters relating to child custody, visitation and support.
The way our society views parenting has come a long way since the 1940s and 1950s. Two-income households are becoming more typical than ever before. In fact, it isn’t uncommon for the mother to be the primary wage earner while the father stays at home to raise the kids.
These shifts in parenting have given rise to the fathers’ rights movement, where fathers are demanding equal consideration when determining who gets the kids in a divorce. More states across the nation are becoming gender neutral when faced with custody disputes. Many family courts are now giving the father the same consideration in a custody dispute, as they would the mother.
Family court judges look at the entire situation when presented with a child custody or visitation dispute. First and foremost, the child’s best interests will be kept in mind when making all judgments. Although it would be nice to put one’s faith in the family court system if you don’t know what the judge is looking for you can make a lethal mistake when presenting the facts of your case. An error can ultimately produce the opposite of what you intended. Your spouse can get the kids or you could wind up with fewer visitations than you had planned. If you were to bring an attorney with you to court, you will have a much better chance of reaching your goals in the dispute.
Any father who would go so far as to hire an attorney to preserve his relationship with his kids is a good father. Fathers who are willing to fight to be in their children’s lives are the ones who can’t afford the relationship with their children to be compromised. Unfortunately, there are spouses who actively try to prohibit contact between their children and their father, and there are spouses who make every attempt to turn the children against their father (as in parental alienation syndrome).
This is a great injustice to both the child and the father. Every child deserves to have both parents play an active role in their upbringing if they are honest and loving parents. If you are experiencing difficulty in any way shape or form or if your rights are being compromised – you should speak with a family attorney right away. There is no telling where this situation might go if you stand back and do nothing. Retaining a Long Island family lawyer will be your first step in protecting your relationship with your children for years to come.