How to evaluate people to determine the most appropriate Health Care Agent for your future needs, if or when you are unable to speak for yourself.
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Identify what kind of EOL/End Of Life care you want!
Doctors take informed medical consent from you, as long as you are able to communicate. But if you are not, then who should communicate for you? And what should they say? Observe your reactions to soundbites of news: who died and how, who has been brought back to life?
Focus on your own desired outcomes, so that your own wishes can be met, as much as possible.
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Who is the SMARTEST person you know? Who likes to THINK?
Who likes to receive new information? And uses it to solve problems?
Who likes to make decisions?
Who can re-make a decision fairly easily?
Who do you know who enjoys THINKING?
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Who is the KINDEST person you know? Who has kind FEELINGS?
Who is kind to others? And you?
Can this person follow directions? Tactfully?
Will your desired communications get lost if this person is To Tactful?
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Who is the BEST COMMUNICATOR you know?
Who is able to "say what s/he means and mean what s/he says"?
Is this person able to speak from YOUR script? Whose wishes will be communicated?
Sometimes it is hard for a spouse to serve, because of their own impending Loss.
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Who already knows about your health care issues?
If you were wearing pajamas, who would you feel comfortable talking about your health care challenges?
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