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How often will we meet?The number and length of mediation sessions varies depending on the number and complexity of the issues and your ability to negotiate without re-hashing too many of the reasons that led to your break up. Sometimes, when the feelings are too raw, we set ground rules that reduce the "button pushing" or possibly try to reach temporary agreements that will allow a break before meeting again. 2
How do you keep track of our agreements?After each meeting I send out a letter outlining the tentative agreements reached, the issues still to be discussed and the paperwork still needed. This provides a running history for all of us. All of the tentative decisions reached at our meetings are ultimately drafted by me into a written agreement. 3
Who makes the decisions?In Mediation, all of the decisions are made by you. I will also give you my opinion as to how the court would rule on each of your issues. It will enable you to make informed decisions. I feel strongly that to reach decisions that are best for both of you, it is helpful to know what results the judicial system is most likely to impose. 4
Do I need my own attorney?I will be urging you both to have this agreement reviewed by your own attorney prior to signing it, but ultimately this is your decision. It is helpful to have someone look at it from your viewpoint alone. Also, because I do not represent you, there is a small possibility that one of you could overturn the agreement if you do not have independent attorney advice 5
How easy is mediation?I never tell anyone that Mediation is "easy." It is never easy to negotiate sometimes complex legal issues during what is of course an emotional time and with a person with whom your relationship is changing dramatically. Going through a break-up is like going through any process of loss; we all go through the stages of denial, anger, grieving and, ultimately, acceptance. People begin their legal negotiations at any one of these stages and are not necessarily experiencing the same one that their partner is in. Additional ResourcesRelated Questions2 Attorney answers: 
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