Having the right priorities from the outset will help you create a fair and realistic list of goals, so you can decide what you want out of your divorce. It’s never too early to get organized. Making a list is always a good way to keep yourself on track. Here's a good start...
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First Things First...
Do you want to keep the house? Even if you both believe that it will eventually need to be sold to fairly divide the assets of the marriage, consider whither one parent can hold on to the house at least during the initial phases of the separation and divorce process to minimize further disruptions to the family.
Do you require financial assistance from your spouse? Avoid, for the time being, using the word “alimony.” That term is loaded with negative connotation, and while you may eventually be using it for the IRS and other purposes, you should both initially just be thinking about equalizing your economic situations. That may well require one spouse to assist the other financially.
What other financial assistance do you think you’ll need? Make a list...
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Intermediate Steps...
As you divide personal property, which of your household belongings do you want to keep and which are you willing to let go to your spouse?
What type of schedule – or parenting plan – might be appropriate for the children?
What are your financial assets? Assess and list IRAs, stocks and retirement plans. Don’t begin to divide them yet, just get them itemized.
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Must-Do Steps
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