You should really hire an attorney for this. You don't want to make a mistake here. You can't just get abused like that--where he collects welfare and child support as well. You should get with an attorney who can help you navigate this system, the criminal as well as the family law aspect.
It sounds like a complicated situation. However, more facts and details are necessary in order to advise you properly. I recommend that you contact one of the many qualified attorneys here on AVVO to discuss your situation.
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