The letter would be to him only. The clause states: "Employee agrees to refrain from making any type of negative or disparaging comments about or in any way casting an unfavorable light, the business, operations, or conduct of the Company and its past or present managers, members, directors, officers, employees, representatives and agents.
If you've already sent the letter, you should immediately bring both it and your entire separation agreement to an employment lawyer in your area. If you haven't already sent it, why would you want to take on that risk?
Very, very generally, these clauses typically refer to those statements which are untrue or would diminish the company's reputation or ability to do business... but you should not rely on this or take it as permission.
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If you are worried that it would be a violation, then why write the letter.
You need to move on with your life.
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Although you did not specify what your private letter to your former boss would contain, I am going to assume that it will not be complimentary. If the letter will contain negative or disparaging comments, I would avoid sending it. Is whatever you want to say to your former boss worth jeopardizing all or part of the money your former employer paid you? In most instances, that answer is no.