Will a history of adultery affect custody ruling?

Asked about 1 year ago - Eagle, ID

My husband was cheating on me for years with men and even went so far as to suggest that the men could come over to our house for sex while the children were sleeping. While I have no proof that it ever happened, I find the very idea of it very dangerous and deplorable. The kids are ages five, two and one (if that matters).
I would like to know if this kind of behavior will make a significant influence on the judge's ruling or will I have to share 50-50 physical custody with this cretin?

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  1. Paula Brown Sinclair

    Contributor Level 20


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    Answered . Custody analyses are complex and involve many factors. While the ultimate decision is required to be based on the best interests of the child(ren), there are as many interpretations of the statutory factors as there are judges. Equal sharing of custodial time is not the only possibility or consideration. Before committing to any plan of action you need to learn a great deal more about the wide range of factors and the vocabulary of a custody order: legal custody, physical custody, and residential custody. Bisexuality itself may not influence the custody decision, but it would certainly suggest certain terms and conditions that limit his behavior while the children are present and, depending on the strength of your evidence, may reflect negatively on the quality of his decision-making ability for the children. Nothing short of a consultation with an experienced family law practitioner will meet your needs. Be prepared to pay a reasonable fee for the valuable information and advice you will receive.

    Best wishes for an outcome you can accept, and please remember to designate a best answer.

    This answer is offered as a public service for general information only and may not be relied upon as legal advice.
  2. David Alexander Browde


    Contributor Level 20

    Answered . Unless you have some proof of this it's unlikely it will have any effect other than to make you the judge think you're nuts to even try to bring it up.

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Divorce is the process of formally ending a marriage. Divorces may be jointly agreed upon, resolved by negotiation, or decided in court.


Adultery is when one or more parties involved in sexual relations are married, but not to each other. It is a leading cause of divorce.

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