Who has custody of a newborn baby born to unmarried parents in the state of NJ?

Asked almost 3 years ago - Pennsville, NJ

My brother in law and his girlfriend had a baby together in May of 2011. They moved down to Florida near her family in July of 2011. Now there, her family is no help, the mother refuses to get a job, the baby is going without because it is only him working, and he would like to bring the baby back to NJ where there will be help from his family but the mother refuses. What rights does he have? Can he take the baby and leave without her knowledge or must he file for custody and relocation first?

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  1. David Perry Davis

    Contributor Level 17

    Answered . It's a genuinely tough situation.

    Technically, under the law (the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction Enforcement Act), NJ has jurisdiction since the child was born here. He could, legally, leave with the child and file an action here, including an emergency request for custody.

    But real-world.... we're talking about a 4 month old baby. With "infants" (less than 2 years old or so), NJ still recognizes a "tender years" doctrine and unless mom is a crack addict, abusive with a DYFS history, etc., a judge will be VERY reluctant to grant residential custody to someone other than the mom. I don't know FL law on this, but it's probably similar.

    If he just left (and assuming he doesn't have proofs of abuse, etc, as outlined above), I'd wager FL would enter an emergency order and the authorities would return the child. He probably isn't violating a criminal law, but it's going to make things difficult, to say the least.

    Sorry I can't offer more solid advice. It's a tough situation. I'd suggest contacting FL counsel and seeing what they say, as well.

    The above is said without seeing your case file and without my understanding the entirety of the facts of your... more
  2. Ronald Glenn Lieberman


    Contributor Level 18

    Answered . He needs to consult with an attorney in Florida regarding jurisdiction and relocation/removal.

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  3. Alan James Brinkmeier

    Contributor Level 20

    Answered . He must establish custody rights and seek relocation first. Taking the baby is an extremely bad idea and should not be done.

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