My question is this I want to start a non-profit foundation who someone who is dead, do I contact the family's lawyer or go through the wills and estates lawyer?
Dead people can't contract, so there's no way to start a non-profit with anyone who's dead. if you want to license the name of dead person, that may be possible through whoever controls their publicity or IP rights, which could be a trust, a foundation, or other entity. Starting with the family lawyer is your best bet, and you can also do a search for corporations and LLCs on the Secretary of Stater website, linked below, and contact any agents listed there.
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