Stay away totally including online, by phone, in person, and you should have no problems. This is a multiple time that you post.
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If you have not been charged with a crime, its likely you do not need a criminal defense attorney. Leave her alone.
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You want a plain statement about a discernible end-point of concern based on the running of the statute of limitations but it is possible that there isn't such a distinct SOL in this circumstance. Statutes of limitations are sometimes extended because of the continuing or on-going nature of the offense. Stalking is the kind of offense for which any SOL is often extended over a longer time by a course of conduct involving multiple acts. So, there isn't going to be any bright-line SOL that anyone here can tell you to rely on.
Now another point you need to open your mind to: you need to stop letting your history with this girl be a factor in your life. Stay away from her in every possible way. No contact whatsoever. That is the only way to be certain that an SOL can finally actually run for your protection. Stop talking and thinking about her; don't ask other people about her; don't have any communication with her. Move on in your thoughts and in your actions. Get a counselor to help you, if necessary.
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