In WA, all assets and wages acquired during marriage are presumed to be community property, no matter who earns it. In the course of a divorce proceeding, it may be possible to have the wife account for the amount which she took in excess of her portion of the community assets. That portion is often one-half, but it can also be more or less than one-half in the discretion of the court.
Generally speaking all assets obtained after marriage are community, this includes wages or income of either party. You seemed fixed on how your status as sole wage earner effects that...it does not. Sole wage earner gives you no bonus points...Make sure to keep a diary of everything that takes place with respect to assets as you go through the process of a divorce. In the end, an accounting of what she took should help in making things fairs with respect to dividing assets and debts up. Bank records are exceedingly easy to obtain so don’t worry about being able to prove what she took or where she put it. Get yourself an experienced family law attorney. Good Luck.
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If you file for a decree of dissolution or legal separation the court can untangle this situation. On the one hand, your money is community property. On the other hand, the courts don't like financial manipulation. It’s always best to consult with a good family law attorney to discuss the details before you act. See my AVVO Legal Guides on divorce for more information about the legal issues raised by your inquiry. Click on my photo. On my AVVO home page click on "View Contributions" or scroll down further and click on "Legal Guides." Scroll down the list of my 29 Legal Guides and select the topics relevant to your question. If you like my answer and Legal Guides, please make sure you mark them as “helpful.”
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