My husband's ex-wife told their sons (2 & 4 yrs old) "you are not allowed to call her Mom,she is not your mother,she is only your Dad's girlfriend", her lawyer send us a letter threading us if we do not correct & stop the kids for calling me Mom she will take us to court.She is stating that we are couching,forcing & imposing myself as a mother figure & for them to call me mom at all times,I have a 5 yrs old & call my husband (Step-dad)Daddy which I don't see any wrong with it.I believe in lettering the kids feel free & express themselves freely at all times.Now our son is very defiant with me,not listening & trying boundaries even more than before,just because of what she told him & this only what we know since she said in over the phone with my husband on the phone. Plus asking personal ?
Divorce / Separation Lawyer
She is correct. They only have one mother and the law and courts willl back her up on this. She is their mother and you are their step mother. They can address you as stepmother but not mother. If you file any motion about this you will lose.
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Divorce / Separation Lawyer
A person has only one mother and one father. A stepparent can be even closer to a child than a biological parent, but the correct title is stepmom, or stepdad. The mother can claim you are trying to commit parental alienation, confuse the children, and eradicate her existence in the child's life. It is highly doubtful any motion you bring will succeed in having the Court order the children to call you Mom, unless you are able to do a stepparent adoption.
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Family Law Attorney
I agree with my colleagues, you can let children express themselves, but DO NOT let them call you "mom", "mother", "mommy", or any variation, except step-mom. You are not their mother. If they file a motion you will lose, and judges do not like this kind of behavior.