I got married to a man on active duty. Shortly after he became abusive. When it was time for him to go to a new duty station he took my things to make sure I would come to. I ended up leaving him and now he will not return my things. It's been four years and now he is saying he is tired of being my storage and he is going to start throwing it away if I don't come get it. I don't have the means to come get it and have practically begged him to at least send one box a month and he won't. I recently asked him about my things and he says his house was broken into and he doesn't know what is missing. I think he already threw some of it out and he told me my 50in TV screen was cracked and he's not replacing it. He said the dresser that was in my daughter room was broke and he threw it out
Not sure there is a good way to handle getting your things back after four years of marriage where you, he, and the household goods were in separate locations
Seems like the best way to handle the matter is a divorce and what happens to your TV will be determined as part of that process.
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You don't mention what state your husband lives in, and that is extremely important. You need to file for divorce AND ask the Court to grant you access to the former marital residence so that you can go in and see what is yours that was left there which is premarital. If he damaged your pre-marital television, that is a form of waste under Virginia law, but that most likely isn't going to be the applicable law. Please note in Comments what state your not-yet-ex is located in, so that the analysis can be made by attorneys who are licensed to practice in that state. Best idea may be to just write it all off, and get on with your life. I don't mean to sound cruel, but if you look at any of the local papers for comparable prices of your personal items, you may well discover that the cost simply isn't worth the hassle of trying to get those things back.
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You should meet with a local attorney about your case. You likely need to file for divorce and seek an order that no marital property may be disposed of until entry of the final decree of divorce.
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