what forms do I need to file a motion to set aside for a default judgment on a restraining order

Without jumping through a bunch of hoops, and showing the court there's good cause to speed things up, there's no way to get a motion to set aside heard on or before October 13, 2009.

You'll need to file a notice of motion, and an application for order. However, the forms are not the critical issue in this case; it's the information (specifically the admissible evidence) which you will need to provide WITH them that will make or break this. I STRONGLY suggest that you at least CONSULT with an experienced family law litigation attorney, immediately, before trying to put one of these together.

I second my colleague's advice. The rules of evidence can be challenging to someone who is not experienced with them. Family law judges are extremely busy ... some have to handle 40 - 50 cases a day ... and if you present improperly completed paperwork it will not be persuasive and the judge is less likely to rule in your favor.

Hire a family law attorney as soon as you can!