What do you call it when someone gets money off of your autobiography without your permission or consent.

If you didn't sign anything granting a release for use of footage of you for this film, or granting your "life story" rights to this professor, and he made a film about you and your family without clearing those rights, then it's possible that you (as well as your family) may have a claim against him for violation of your privacy rights and publicity rights. But his uses may have been protected, educational "fair use," that he doesn't owe you anything for, it was "news." The same possibilities exist for the 2 books. The fact that he wrote 2 books and included your "character," sounds like he used you as some kind of case study to make his academic arguments.

This film and 2 books must have happened some time ago, so you need to consult an IP lawyer immediately to see whether you have let the statute of limitations on these claims lapse, and to to review exactly what rights, if any, you granted. You clearly knew about and permitted the filming, which undercuts any privacy claims, so the issues an IP lawyer would look at are whether the professor's uses were educational fair use-type uses regarding sociological "news" that would be protected by the First Amendment.

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