What do i need to do if the non-custodial parent doesnt excercise his parenting time?

Asked over 2 years ago - Houghton Lake, MI

I have sole legal and physical custody of my child. The father has reasonable parenting the court left it up to us to determine times and dates when he see his child. The father will not have a converstaion with me about the visitation when he wants to see the child. Since May 2011 until now hes only seen him maybe twice a month a few over night stays. He wont pick him up, he never asks me to see him im always the one to bring it to his attention about his child.st so my son can have a father and son relationship. Ive made a schedule using the parenting guidelines but he still refuses to agree with the terms should i bring it to the courts attention? I have refusesd his parenting time because he will not buy clothes for him for when my child is over there am i violating parenting time?

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  1. Edward Jacob Sternisha

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    Answered . First, you cannot violate the terms of the court order by refusing to allow him his parenting time if he doesn't buy clothes. Just send your child with clothes. As for notifying the court that the child's father is not exercising his parenting time, there is no reason to do that. The court is not going to force him to be a good dad. Sadly, some parents do not take advantage of the time with their own children. It is, however, good that you have been trying to encourage a positive and healthy relationship between the father and child. That is very important and many people in your position do not understand that. Good for you. Continue to do that and just keep track of the days the father does or does not exercise his parenting time. Should he later decide to challenge you in court for anything, you would have a documented record of what actually had been occurring.

    Keep being the parent you know your child needs and do not say negative things to your child about the father. Good Luck!

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  2. Paula Brown Sinclair

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    Answered . You cannot force the father to exercise his custodial time nor impose a schedule or preconditions like buying clothes, but so far you are mostly behaving appropriately. Your child deserves to have a relationship with both parents. Whatever is the reason for his reluctance, the most loving thing you can do for your child is continue to make contact for the father as easy as you can reasonably manage. Or course, you shouldn't be required to do that, but you seem to have an excellent intuition about what is best for your child. The day may come when the father comes to his senses about being a better father, or maybe not. Either way, the day will come that your child thanks you for doing your best to make up for the father's shortcomings. Do you HAVE to do it? No, you WANT to do it. Bite your tongue and make excuses for his irresponsibility. Your child will figure out soon enough where the problem is, and doesn't need your help explaining it.

    Best wishes for a favorable outcome, an dplease remember to designate a best answer.

    This answer is offered as a public service for general information only and may not be relied upon as legal advice.

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