Married 17 years. Together for almost 21 years. 3 kids
Divorce / Separation Lawyer
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Family Law Attorney
It depends on alot of facts not stated. On Child Support, it depends who is the custodial parent and how much time the non0custodial parent spends with the minor children and how much money is earned by both parties. Concerning spousal support, generally for a marriage of this length, the court has alot of discretion on spousal support and it depends on 14 factors in Family Code Section 4320. Please seek help form an attorney on these matters.