That $2,500 might have paid for an attorney to assist you. Instead, you have to pay your ex's fees. When you represent yourself in court, you are supposed to know and follow the state rules, state statutes, rules of civil procedure and the local rules. "I didn't know" isn't an excuse a Judge is going to respect. If the Court thinks your filings are frivolous, that is all that matters, it doesn't matter if you think your pleadings weren't frivolous. You are not wearing the robe.
Please. If you cannot afford an attorney, contact the King County Bar (kcba.org) and see if they can set you up with a volunteer attorney to review your case and see if they can offer you some real assistance. Hope this helps. I know it is not what you wanted to hear, but . . .
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