Assuming that the two of you are not going to reconcile, there are 2 ways to finish the divorce, an agreement or a trial. If you cannot get the agreement you have to set the matter for trial. As a practical matter, frequently you are able to obtain the agreement once the spouse digests that the divorce will happen with or without her consent. I frequently come across your situation in representing parties and my suggestion is always to set the matter for trial and hope it settles before you get there.
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