In my opinion, you're going to have to lay out all of the facts in more detail in a private consultation with a local attorney who's familiar with this kind of litigation. Speaking broadly and generally, you're saying that false accusations have been made against you in a bogus legal action. I'm not licensed in CA, but the kind of claim that's generally appropriate to obtain damages for this kind of wrong is in the nature of abuse of process or malicious prosecution. But before such a lawsuit can be filed, you have to win the legal action that's been filed against you.
It's risky to try to handle such a situation by yourself. You really should consult with a local attorney and hire one to represent you.
You need to actually fight the TRO by appearing at the hearing with an attorney. If you win, there will be no record and no job loss based on the false accusations then. If you lose the TRO and then are not get a job based on that and if the accusations are false, you may have a defamation claim. If you are a minor I would not have a parent serve the papers. If you are an adult, a parent can serve since they are not a party to the lawsuit. Good luck.
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I agree with our attorneys who have responded with the general principle that to take any affirmative action based on accusations, the accused must first prevail in court on the TRO. Also, a defamation suit is likely to backfire in California, because the "litigation privilege" protects plaintiffs and permits an "anti-SLAPP" motion to recover their attorney fees. Rather, as has been suggested, a malicious prosecution/abuse of process case is a limited way to address false accusations, however, that can only be filed after dismissal or adjudication in the wrongly accused's favor. This general advice is no substitute for specific legal assistance and I strongly advise you contact an attorney for a free initial consultation.
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