You have far too many questions to answer than can be done in this fashion. First and foremost, if the Court has ordered something, then you must do that act or face contempt charges. If you have justification then you must first file an appropriate motion and then seek to limit his knowledge of where you live and so on. Unfortunately, this is something that requires legal skill and the use of an attorney if you want to succeed. Emergency Custody Orders, Civil Protection Orders and Motions to Modify are some tools that appear to be pertinent to your case. You may contact me for a free telephone consult at (614)207-1673.
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You have extensive high conflict litigation. If you disobey Court Orders--He has the ability to file for Contempt, and based upon the change in circumstances--may even file to change custody. Call your existing Lawyer--get on top of your fee issue--and get into Court to fix the problem. You can't ignore Court Orders--they are not "suggestions"--they're ORDERS. Good Luck.
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