What are my rights as a widower step-father to see my step-children and they to see their half-sister?

Asked about 2 years ago - Woodbury, NJ

My wife had 2 children from her first marriage and she was the primary care provider ands went to their father's every other weekend. We purchased a house in 2008 and they lived with us and we got married in 2009. My wife passed away in Aug 2010 after our baby was born and my step-children were taken to live with their father full time. Within 2 months, i had a falling out w/ their father and i haven't seen my step-children nor have they seen their half-sister in over a year and a half even though my wife told me that he promised to abide by her wishes that if anything ever happened to her that i would be in my step-children's lives based on her condition.
Do i have any rights to see my step-children and for them to see their baby sister? I've had trouble trying to find out.

Attorney answers (4)

  1. Laura Ruvolo Lipp


    Contributor Level 12


    Lawyers agree

    Answered . First and foremost, I am so so sorry for your loss. An unimaginable tragedy only to be followed by another tragedy of having siblings separated for so long. There are indeed laws that support what you are looking for. The cases become complicated, though, so you should sit down with a family law attorney to strategize the best way to move forward. Good luck to you and your children.

  2. Yolanda Navarrete


    Contributor Level 20


    Lawyers agree

    Answered . I am so sorry for your loss and I think it is so impressive that you wish to honor your wife's wishes. My advise is to file a motion for parenting time, based on your having been a psychological parent, and the best interest in the children keeping in touch with siblings. I sure hope you win this.

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  3. Brad Michael Micklin


    Contributor Level 14


    Lawyers agree

    Answered . You'll need to file a motion to seek visitation with the children. Unfortunately, the natural father has a paramount right to custody. However, you have a right to parenting time and visitation with the children if you can show that it is a haunted them if you are removed from their lives.

  4. Ronald Glenn Lieberman


    Contributor Level 18


    Lawyer agrees

    Answered . You realy don't have many rights because of the way the laws are structured.

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