I have a 2 year old with my x whom I've never married, i have sole legal custody of him and share psychical custody with his parents, he signed over his rights when he went into the army. I am recently engaged to a german citizen and he wants to move over here so we can all be a family but his job offer is in hawaii, he works as a military contractor not for the military, i live in pa and want to marry him so my son can have a stable family. his dads around sometimes. not much at all. also my fiancé has family up in hawaii near where we would be living, his dad refuses to speak to me at all, so I don't know how to tell him my plans, i do not like his parents and they twist everything i say. i work as a retail supervisor and can take my experience anywhere. any thoughts on how hard it'd be?
Family Law Attorney
Under the custody statute, there are a list of factors that the court must consider in order to determine whether it is in the child's best interest for you to have primary physical custody and to relocate. You will need to meet with an experienced family attorney to handle this matter because these cases are complicated and there are procedural requirements that you must follow.
My response is based solely on the limited information contained in the question. It is not meant to substitute your attorney's advice.
Child Custody Lawyer
You will need to send notice to him and his parents if they are parties to the action of your intention to relocate. There are specific items of information that must be included in the notice and you must attach an affidavit for him to complete and file with the court. If he objects a hearing will be necessary. There are 10 factors that a Judge must consider. Among the factors are the reasons for the move, how it will benefit the parent and how it will benefit the child and what arrangements can be made for continuing contact with the other parent.
You should consult with an attorney immediately.