There are no set rules regarding custody and parenting time. There is a presumption in favor of joint legal custody and meaningful parenting time with both parents. There is a doctrine still followed in New Jersey to some extent known as the “tender years doctrine,” that essentially provides that the best interests of a child 3 years or younger are served by primarily residing with the natural mother and having parenting time with the natural father, but this doctrine has been somewhat eroded over the last several years. In short, there is no law that prohibits an award of primary physical custody to the natural father when a child is of “tender years,” and it could theoretically be ordered under certain circumstances. As an aside, the fact that a newborn child may or may not be breastfeeding will most likely have an impact upon a family court judge’s decision to award overnight parenting time to a natural father.
Case law requires that family court judges consider the following factors in making initial custody determinations:
Relationship of the child with his/her parents and siblings
Each parent's ability to communicate with each other and work together
Each parent's willingness to accept custody arrangements
History of a parent's unwillingness to cooperate with a custody plan
Fitness of each parent
Geographical proximity of the parents' homes
Age and number of children
Child's preference, when the child is of a sufficient age and intelligence to make a decision
History of domestic violence
Stability of the home environment
Needs of the child
Family court can be a complicated and confusing process for the self-represented litigant, especially one who has little prior experience with the legal system, and even more so when the child that is the subject of the proceedings is a newborn or relatively young. It is important that you consult with an experienced family law attorney to find out what your rights are and how to protect your and your child’s interests when you go to court.
You should consider meeting with an attorney well-versed in these areas. I recommend you seek a law firm that concentrates in family law. This concentration allows the attorneys to better understand the issues and complexities of you matter.
Additionally, below are links to articles and information that may assist you with your case.
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You should consult with an experienced Family Law attorney to discuss your matter. Once your child is born, custody will need to be addressed. If you and the child's father are unable to agree on an arrangement, then the Court's involvement may be sought. The Court can Order a custodial arrangement in the best interests of the child that will depend on a variety of factors. You can find more information on this issue at the following link:
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In NJ, both parents, all things being equal, have equal rights to their children. However, inn the NJ Supreme Court case of Beck v. Beck, for shares custody, parents must have the potential to cooperate (my paraphrase). Women who wouldn't normally breast feed do so from time to time to gain a perceived advantage in custody disputes. It doesn't work. You should really take you inquiries on something this vital beyond this forum IMO.
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This is a serious decision. I would first immediately seek out a therapist. One you trust, and who you can speak with. Then I would contact an attorney in your area ASAP. Pay for an hour of time with him or her. Provide him or her with the facts relative to your matter, prior to the meeting. Meet with the attorney. Take detailed notes regarding the possible scenarios. Then speak with your therapist and try to make a decision that works for you. There are a lot of issues and possibilities, and not all of them are positive for you in the future. Good luck.
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