In Wa. state, once the child reaches the "age of discretion" the court may listen to his/her wishes but the Court is by no mean obliged to adhere to those wishes. It is a commo misperception that children in Washington can choose with whom they wish to live -- this is not the law. They can express thier wishes to an investigator or social worker who is assigned to the case, and that third party may include the child's wishes in a report to the court. Usually, this does'nt happen until the child reaches 14 or 15 years of age -- it varies case by case.